The Musings of Gigi

Hello, neglected tumblr. Although I have not re-posted or written anything here, it does not mean that I don’t check every so often what is going on in my dashboardtumblr world. So don’t feel sad. If you want a quick update, amongst the many inane things in my life stands one item you might want to know about: I’m gonna be a married woman! Yes, he put a ring on it. So because this is such an “exciting and amazing time” in my life (quote from excited female classmate) and since yes, there are many fun experiences I have found myself in, I’ve decided to dedicate this post to the ups and downs of engagement. Something girls seem SO incredibly fascinated by, that I’m almost tired of it. So, aside from all the mushy gushy things like finding the love of my life (cue “awww”), being fortunate enough that the Lord has worked out the timing, and just being super excited to spend every day with this person forever (yes, forreals and no, its not scary), there are some things I’d like to categorize as “Engagement No-no’s: bride’s point of view” aka “Things that annoy me” because sometimes, a girl just needs to talk it out.

The unfortunate thing about receiving a message that is along the lines of “OMG! so excited! can’t wait for the invite!” is that most of the time, if you find yourself writing this, you probably ARE NOT going to receive an invite! I don’t mean to be horrible and exclusive, but brides know just how freaking ridiculously expensive it is to have a nice wedding. If you need to remind the bride that you need to be invited, then she probably is not inviting you. So please save both of us the awkwardness and don’t post this publicly on my facebook wall. 

Would you ask an acquaintance how much they make? How much they owe in loans? The ins and outs of their spendings? So, why would you ask how many carats my ring is? I know everyone is secretly wondering, and I’m the same way when other girls get a rock in their finger. But, its rude to be poking your nose down my fiancee’s wallet and people really should wake up and get their faces out of other people’s business.

Trust me, when you get engaged, the first you think will (hopefully) not be: Here is my mental list of people I need to tell! 1. mom, 2. dad, 3… all the way until [insert name of friend I haven’t spoken to in a year]. I really don’t mean to be aloof and let people find out on facebook, but considering the level of excitement + low level of cell batteries, its just not feasible to tell everyone before news hits facebook. Don’t take it personally. Seriously, I forgot people that I really care about. And its not that I don’t care, there’s just so much going on at the moment. You don’t plan for these things, and when it happens, you are thinking about your own future, not about making sure everyone else doesn’t get their feelings hurt about your own engagement. 

So HEY, all in all: wedding planning ain’t just a piece of cake and pleasing everyone just isn’t feasible. If I love you, know that I still do, even if I forget you occasionally (hey, we all do it). 

It’s a sad moment when you realize that you ended up being the type of person you set out not to be. Oh, it’s the little things that matter: the comments that you blurted, the actions you tried to justify, the things that should never have been said. Hypocrisy is hard to face when you realize you’ve been living it. But, it does feel good to admit it and move on. Lesson learned in realtime: treat others as you want to be treated. No excuses.